Making Your Marriage Last

Making it last is the hard part!

Allow me to share a few thoughts that I hope will help your marriage go more smoothly and last forever.

Number one is – make the right choice from the start! Maybe it is too late in the game for some of you gents, but I hope that you can read this before making a bad decision!

Sometimes the cliché of the “poor girl from a poor family who will do anything for a good life” is true. She is young and not very experienced; maybe she has never even left her town or Provence. An Aussie man shows up, and to her he is a gift from god.

She falls in love, and he thinks he is the luckiest bloke in the world. They get married, get her visa, and the years go by. Her memories of poverty have faded away. She starts having second thoughts and says to herself, “What was I thinking?”

The problem is, that she was never in love with you, hardly even knew you, it happened fast. If you use the head and ignore the fog of romance (and horniness), you will KNOW when somebody is really in love with you. You really do! If you are honest with yourself, you will see that there’s not enough substance.

Sometimes you need to think for the girl, and you need to back off and do the right thing. 

Wear the trousers

I’ve touched on this before, and it is worth repeating. 

Most Filipina women want their men to be men!

Someone has to wear the trousers in your family, and your wife will do it if you don’t, rather than let the family fall apart. This goes against her nature, but if this happens, it is YOUR FAULT – not hers.

I have witnessed situations where the Filipina wife comes home after working hard all day, only to find her husband just lounging around in his underpants watching TV. He hasn’t gotten up off his lazy ass all day and lifted one finger to do anything around the house. Hasn’t hung out the laundry or washed one dish. Of course, she will be angry and lose respect for him. There’s something very wrong with this picture, a recipe for failure of the relationship.

My wife is my partner in our practice, but I am still the man in the driver’s seat and always make sure that I take more on my shoulders than she does. This is very important for many reasons. It’s important for her and important to making your marriage last.

A man’s value is granted by what he produces.

That is our nature.

If we don’t produce, we will stop valuing ourselves.

When we have low self-esteem.

Our wife’s will notice it,

Then they start to lose respect for us.

It is as simple as that. Don’t let it happen. Pick yourself up, and be someone that your wife can respect and love.