Don’t Be Afraid To Speak Your Mind To Your Filipina

Western men have spent the last 40 years being told that we are being patriarchal and dominating when we are trying to be decisive, strong, and reliable. We are encouraged to discover our “feminine side,”which is apparently always a positive thing. We are even expected to believe that the Queer Eye for Straight Guy people can come to our house and fix all our testosterone-induced problems.
Many TV shows and movies tell you that the wife and kids hold the moral high-ground and are the smart ones, while the dad is a buffoon. Then there is the bad dad who can’t go to Joey’s baseball game or watch his daughters dance recital because he has to work late (so he can pay for the uniform and baseball gear and the dance lessons). So then what happens?

Men end up scared to be men. He goes to visit his lady in the Philippines and agrees to everything. He expresses no opinion about anything, so he won’t be accused of being patriarchal and dominating.
When her relatives try to take advantage of him, he meekly opens his wallet and says “here ya go,” even though he can’t really afford it.

This spineless bloke is also scared of being seen as a racist; so he surrenders his own cultural identity
and conditioning to her and the Filipino ways, no matter how bonkers they are. What she wants, she
gets. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind! You have experience and intelligence. Use it!

If the person you want to spend your life with has an idea with which you don’t agree, one that may

adversely affect your relationship and your future - Then TELL her! 

Here are 7 things that you DO NOT want to do:

1. Give more money to relatives than you can afford or you are happy with.

2. Sponsor relatives to come to Australia if you’re really not happy with the idea.

3. Put off her immigration process just because her mother doesn’t want her to leave, if you think

it should be started. These things take time and the longer you wait, the longer it takes.

4. Agree to get married in the Philippines instead of Australia just because she wants to, if you

would rather have your wedding in Australia.

5. Wait three years to fill out her immigration application because her parents want her to finish

going to college first, if you feel strongly otherwise.

6. Have your bed full of 7 and 8 year old children if it makes you uncomfortable.

7. Change your diet to nothing but Filipino food, while she is not willing to make any dietary

changes. 

TALK about things!
Begin your relationship making joint-decisions, and make sure BOTH of you do plenty of compromising.
This is what good marriages are built on, and it will ensure that you have a close relationship - where
BOTH of you are happy and fulfilled - for many years to come.